To the younger women out there…This one’s from someone who learned it the hard way.

To the younger women out there…This one’s from someone who learned it the hard way.

April 01 .2026 8 min read

When I was younger, I turned heads everywhere I went. I don’t say that to be self-serving—it’s just the truth. People told me I was pretty from the time I can remember hearing people talk. And my head soaked up every single word.

I asked my mom once if I was just pretty or uniquely pretty. I wasn’t asking about my heart or my potential—I just wanted to know where I ranked visually. And that mindset? It stuck with me.

I was smart, but not dedicated. Talented in sports, but not committed. I didn’t build anything deep within myself… because honestly, I didn’t think I had to. My looks got me out of things, into things, and through things.

But as I’ve gotten older—and yes, I notice—things shift. The stares become less. The boys start calling you ma’am. And if you haven’t built a relationship with yourself… that part can really sting.

Because when the outside changes, you better hope something solid is growing on the inside.

I’m still working on that part. Still building. But this version of me—the one who’s grounded, bold, healing, evolving? She’s so much better than the shiny version I used to chase.

So to the young women relying on the outside for confidence: Start building your insides now. Your future self will thank you. I promise.

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